“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, an gave himself for it;”
This may seem easy when you first read it, but if you really evaluate how we as husbands should follow this Word all the way through. See Christ loved the church so much that he gave himself for it. We as husbands must do the same. You may say to yourselves well I am ready to give my life. “Let her have it.” But what He is calling us to is much harder. See He was able to die and then ressurect, but He is calling us to die while we yet live.
Die to ourselves. Everyday of our lives a little more dies in order to keep the marriage. Today it may be our former lifestyle, tomorrow it could be something else.
5-13-2010: A quote I read today I think is fitting for this topic on marriage.
“The most successful marriages are those where both husband and wife seek to build the self-esteem of the other. . .” Dr. James Dobson; Straight Talk to Men and Their Wives
3-12-2012: In June of this year my wife and I will celebrate 10 years of marriage. It has been a journey to say the least. We’ve had our good days and we have had our bad. There have been times where we didn’t think we were going to make it, but it was in those times where God stepped in to save us. There have also been those times where we couldn’t get enough of eachother. We spent lots of time together even if it was just a game of UNO, or scrabble. It was in those moments that I realized the little things matter in a marriage.
I remember reading the book “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff, because it’s all small stuff.” I understand the premise, that we shouldn’t get all worked up about small issues that happen in life, but I do believe the little things, or the small things, such as a kiss goodbye in the morning, or a short call in the afternoon just to see how your day is going, or a text saying I love you, or a surprise visit for lunch. These small gestures can keep fire lit, and remind eachother that you truly value them. So I will say, yes don’t sweat the small stuff, but remember the little things.
More to come. But feel free to dialogue at any time.